How are you? I hope you had a lovely weekend and enjoyed first few days of warmer temperatures. We stayed in London and spent some wonderful, relaxing hours with an old friend of ours who came here just to see us – how lucky are we?!
We spent our very valuable 24 hours together talking about life, plans, future projects and what is it that we are missing in our lives or that would make us feel happier or more successful. We also had some tasty food from our local markets, visited Greenwich, had drinks at the Shard and watched Big Bang Theory on our couch (which was the part I enjoyed the most).
Whilst in the middle of all these philosophical conversations, I started to ask myself questions like: What is it that I want? Am I doing the right thing? Who am I? Where I come from? What’s my purpose in life? Why are bananas radioactive? And so on and so forth.
All these questions are generally followed by thoughts like Oh if only I was rich, if only I was a billionaire or Why wasn’t I born like Paris Hilton? Why her and not me? If only I was a genius or had a very well paid job. Bla bla bla. All of that is then followed by some minutes of daydreaming of the villas and yachts I’d had around the world if I was a billionaire, together with images of fancy places I would be in right now if I wasn’t exactly myself. Then I’d eventually open my eyes and realise n o t h i n g has changed.
I guess we all have moments like this when we wish to be in what we think is a better financial position or had a healthier body and happier mind. We feel very unlucky not to have what we don’t and forget all about what we do have. We also think that being in a different situation would solve problems we don’t really want to tackle or that it would help us fulfil needs we don’t actually have. What if we could switch our perspective and see the world differently?
I’m a very dreamy person and there are times when I go through this thread of thoughts more often so I’ve developed a trick to help me see reality from a different point of view. It’s nothing special, but you may find it useful as well, so let me share it. When I start questioning the universe as to why I’m not Paris Hilton, I ask myself: What would I do if I were a billionaire? Bear in mind I’m not referring to my w h o l e l i f e (that might be depressing) – I’m just asking myself what would I do in this exact moment in time if I miraculously was a billionaire and didn’t have to care about money?
I’m always surprised by my answers. I think we don’t appreciate enough how much it is important for us to impress other people so we think that if we had a lot of money we would do nothing at all, just relax and go to fancy places, but then when I ask myself what would I do if I didn’t have to worry about anything, not money, not anyone else, the answers I come up with are very simple. There are times when I don’t care about going to a fancy place and I just want to go to the local pub and have a burger with chips (but somehow I don’t want to admit it to myself, weird).
This morning I woke up thinking: oh no, if only I didn’t need to go to work – so I asked myself: Ester, what would you do if you didn’t have to go to work? And my answer was: well, I’d spend some time in bed reading the novel that’s on my nightstand and then I’d still go to work but I’d start at ten or eleven. Nothing fancy, I would only have stayed in one hour or two more.
My point is that sometimes to feel rich or to feel good about ourselves we just need to be honest.
Of course, there are questions like: Where will I find the money to buy a house? In that case, it is better to ask yourself: What are the steps I need to take to start earning more money? But at least in half of those cases, we don’t need what we think we need. We can enjoy life with less and without the body a top model.
Bear in mind I’m not asking you to give up hopes and expectations. Everyone should follow their dreams, step by step, in a very long process of trial and error. In most cases, though, it is quite difficult to become an overnight success so it is more important than ever to be able to enjoy our daily lives starting from now. Hopefully, one day we will all achieve our targets so what if we could achieve them while being happy all the way through the years it will take to get there?
Let’s end up saying that life is never easy for anyone but sometimes we don’t need much to turn a bad moment into a better one. We just need to find some courage to admit what we truly want and do that even though we might think we need to be slimmer or richer to achieve that task. As Mark Zuckerberg said, sometimes done is better than perfect.
I am not sure that’s the right quote in the right place but I really like it. So please stop complaining about the things we don’t have to impress other people who won’t care. Let’s just focus on what we want and try our best to mark it as done.
I wish you all a wonderful end of the week and I’ll see you next week! (And don’t forget to follow my blog) 😍😍